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Marriage Myth – I Can Change My Spouse
Debunking Common Marriage Myths We all have assumptions and beliefs that we’ve picked up about what a marriage should look like, and about how our spouse is supposed to act. Some of these will be correct and helpful. However, others can be completely, or at least partially, incorrect. Often they are common and widely accepted myths that we have heard and then believed. Mark Twain once said, “It’s not the things you don’t know that will hurt you; it’s the things you know for sure that just ain’t so!” Over the coming months, join us as we explore and debunk some of the more common myths about marriage.
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What is your marriage vision?
What is your Marriage Vision? Do you know where you are heading as a couple? What is your God-given Purpose? Where there is no vision, the people perish: but he that keepeth the law, happy is he. Proverbs 29:18 KJV
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What Is He Thinking? – Disagreements
What Is He Thinking? He keeps shutting down or walking away when we argue. If you’re anything like me, there are very few things worse than arguing with your husband. It often seems like everything is going along really well and then “BAM” all of a sudden you’re in the middle of a disagreement. Not to mention that what you are fighting about is often pretty trivial and gets blown out of proportion by poor responses and heated emotions. What can really make everything feel even worse is when your husband, who is generally committed and loving, either stops responding or gets up and walks away, effectively putting an end…
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How Often Should Married Couples Have Sex?
How Often Should Married Couples Have Sex? A question asked by pretty much every engaged and married couple. However, it is likely that the expectations of either partner on the frequency they will be having sex are quite different. Before they get married many couples have visions of making passionate love to each other every night. They may also expect that every night is going to be exceptional! But if you skip forward a few years into a marriage, and maybe add a child or two, the desire for sex has often greatly diminished, especially for a spouse with a lower desire. I remember a couple of months into my marriage…
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What Is He Thinking?!? – Romance
What Is He Thinking?!? Does My Husband Even Care About Romance? As little girls we often grow up with the notion of meeting, and marrying, our very own ‘Prince Charming’. He will sweep us off our feet with his romantic gestures, regularly bringing us flowers, and writing us beautiful, butterfly-inducing messages of love. He’ll organise amazing candlelit dinners where we hold hands, stare into each other’s eyes, and easily enjoy deep and meaningful conversations. However, for the largest majority of women our men, who showed romantic potential during dating, after the “I do” dwindle in their romantic gestures, and for some, it can even become to feel non-existent. We start…
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Becoming A Student of Your Spouse
Becoming a Student of Your Spouse What does this actually mean? And 6 practical steps to achieve this. No matter how old we get, we never stop learning. The world we live in is changing rapidly and we are forced to continually learn new skills and adapt to our surroundings. Meeting new people also requires us to learn how best to read them and interact with them. If we want to thrive in life we need to be intentional about this learning. This includes regularly revising the understanding we take for granted and moving forward with a fresh outlook. When you first met your spouse there was likely an initial…
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What’s He Thinking? – Nothing!
What Is He Thinking? NOTHING! Have you ever been driving down the motorway in comfortable silence and asked your husband “what are you thinking?” Only to have him respond “Nothing”. Since you can’t understand the concept of actually thinking about nothing, you then switch from comfortable silence to agitated silence as you conclude that he MUST be hiding something from you! Welcome to the differences between men and women!
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Lessons from the Trenches
Lessons from the Trenches Four key steps when marriage gets tough. All marriages go through difficult seasons, where the feelings of love are harder to find. But sometimes things can get extra tough! One of you may have admitted to an affair, or woken up one day feeling like the love has gone. Or perhaps you are spending increasing amounts of your time together arguing or ignoring each other. It is at this point that we all have a choice to make: will we get out of the marriage and move on to perceived “greener pastures”, or will we get stuck in and fight. They say that anything in…
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What Is He Thinking?! – Sex
What Is He Thinking?!? - I feel like he just wants sex all the time! God designed men and women differently. We were made with different body parts, different needs, different strengths and weaknesses and, different ways of thinking about things. For some reason, God also thought it was a good idea to make men think very differently than women about sex.
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Side By Side
Side By Side 5 Reasons Community is Vital for your Marriage When God created the world, He designed us to be in relationship with other people. We were made in the image of God and, like the Trinity, we too thrive in community. It not only helps alleviate our loneliness but also teaches us and enables us to grow. In Proverbs 27:17 it says “As iron sharpens iron, so one person sharpens another.” This means that when we spend time around other people, God uses them to soften our rough edges. In community we learn to be less self-focused, and to improve our communication and people skills. Many…
