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What Is He Thinking? – Arguements
What Is He Thinking?!? - When he gets angry at what I said, but I have no idea why. ANSWER: It’s likely he feels you were disrespectful.
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Exploring Old Stomping Grounds
Date Night Idea When you first met your future partner you spent hours talking about your likes, dislikes, your point of view on many different subjects and your personal history, as well as your hopes and goals for the future. While men are generally presented as the gender that doesn’t do a lot of talking, it is extremely common to hear newly smitten women describe an early date with, “We got on so well. He is so easy to talk to. We just talked and talked all night long!” New couples are fascinated with learning about the other person and intrigued by their similarities and differences. The Gottman Institute calls…
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Money Talks - 4 Foundations for Financial Success Everybody has heard the old adage, “Money doesn’t grow on trees”. Your parents probably said it to you many times as a child and you likely rolled your eyes in response. But, the older you get, the more you realise how true the statement really is. It often feels like the more money you earn the more you need, and it can certainly be a difficult process figuring out how to balance providing for your family while not making money an idol in your life. Unfortunately, though, money is a “necessary evil” in today's society, and given the emotions and…
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Let’s talk about sex
Let’s talk about sex baby! 4 tips for discussing sex with your spouse Sex, an intimate and beautiful act designed by God, but often presented in today's culture in crass and graphic ways. It is regularly shied away from in the church arena and can even be talked about as dirty or bad. Given the many mixed messages we receive about sex, it is no wonder that most couples struggle to talk about it. Sex is an awkward topic. There is so much emotion attached to it and it’s something most of us have had very little healthy education about. It is likely your parents struggled to have the “Birds…
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The Positivity Posture
The Positivity Posture A small perspective shift that significantly improved my marriage. For some people positivity is a gift. These people express words of affirmation exceedingly well and their outlook on life focuses on the good things. I am a strong choleric personality with a bent towards strategy, an ability to identify issues and then find ways to move forward. This means that positivity and affirmations are definitely something I need to work on. That's not to say I am always negative either, but critiquing does come naturally, much to my husband's dismay. About 6 months ago I was having a D & M (one of my favourite things to do)…
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Clearing the Decks
3 Keys to Learning to Fight Fair The process of learning to fight fair is a journey we will be on for the rest of our lives. Whether we like to admit it or not, for most of us this is because of our innately selfish nature. It’s a symptom of The Fall, but thankfully it’s an area we can certainly improve in. Rick Warren describes marriage as “a lifelong course in learning to be unselfish” and I totally agree with him. When I reflect on the arguments I have with my husband they are pretty much always fuelled by the selfish desires of one, or both of us – even…
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Allies or Enemies? Conflict Resolution Tips
Conflict – a word that makes many of us cringe, but an unavoidable experience in any marriage relationship, especially a healthy, thriving one. The goal, however, is achieving healthy conflict rather than unhealthy conflict. Whether your natural response is to be the loud and angry fighting type, the extended silent treatment type, the stick your head in the sand and ignore it but build up resentment type, or a mixture of all three, it is important to figure out what this healthy conflict business actually looks like. I am certainly far from being an expert in this area, and to be honest, conflict resolution is probably the thing my husband…
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Day In, Day Out
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Back To School
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